Use plenty of lube, too, because you may be here for a while

Female ejaculation: What is it, is it real, and are there any benefits

You’ll know the woman you’re with is very turned on when her clitoris and labia swell and darken, heightening sensitivity. Her vagina will also be very lubricated and she will be eager for you to penetrate her. Have laid back, steamy, zero-pressure fun learning how to make your lover squirt, and only good can cum of it. And then do what they say or adapt the pressure you’re applying and try something else to see if it works better. 3) Stimulate the g-spot with your fingers, a glass wand, or using a vibrator.

My few successful squirts have all been down to angle, pressure and mood. Lying on my back, legs spread wide for ease of access, with someone using either their fingers or a curved g-spot dildo to press hard against the front wall of my vagina. The ‘g-spot’ is not a magic button – it’s just a neat place to stimulate the internal parts of the clitoris. Once you’ve found roughly this spot, stimulate it gently at first and then begin building pressure. Use plenty of lube, too, because you may be here for a while.

Opinion is divided, but recent studies suggest that squirting is technically neither urine or ejaculate. According to a 2021 literature review the fluid is a mixture of several components, believed to come from the Skene glands, often loosely referred to as the ‘female prostate’. Your partner may be the only person who knows what can make them achieve pleasure, so listen to them, and work together. If your partner wants to learn how to squirt but doesn’t know what works for them yet, encourage them to figure out what they like and what works for them through masturbation. If it’s something you are both interested in, work together to make it happen.

This way she’ll get used to your commands, and you can keep making them bigger (in step 5 you’ll learn why this is important). No one feels comfortable with someone who’s in a hurry. Now that you have prepared the environment to make her feel relaxed, if this woman is your long term partner, I would suggest having a conversation with her about it. Not just your favorite rap/70’s/pub songs, but something relaxing that doesn’t distract her.

Finally, we’re bringing you very public answers to some of your most private questions. When sexual and vaginal health concerns arise, OB/GYN and nationally known women’s health expert Dr. Jessica Shepherd wants to ensure you have the answers you need to feel at ease. As the founder of Her Viewpoint, an online women’s health forum, she uses this outlet to focus on addressing taboo topics in a comfortable setting. If you squirt during sex—or you’re hoping to experience it for the first time—trust the process. It can be something that happens in 5 seconds or 20 minutes, depending on your level of arousal.

So, naysayers be damned, devoting your time to learning how to squirt yourself, or how to make your partner squirt is a noble mission. That said, I always caution against putting pressure on yourself or on your partner to perform squirting (or any other sexual act), because it only works if all parties are relaxed. Also, if you can, avoid putting squirting on a pedestal. While some squirters may find their wet ’n wild orgasms enhanced, there is no orgasm hierarchy woman squirt, and you’re not somehow a better, badder lover if you know how to make a pussy squirt. You’re simply here to learn and enjoy the journey, babes.

This will make her understand that she doesn’t have to feel shame around you. It’s important to switch hands while applying the technique. This usually only happens to guys who are 16 and licking pussy for the first time. You can end the erotic massage by licking her pussy. (Here you can find 12 erogenous zones you should touch). This will make her understand that the sexier she behaves, the more turned on you’ll be and the more you’ll like and appreciate her.

Ideally, her natural arousal should provide enough moisture to coat your finger before penetration. If needed, you can enhance lubrication by licking your finger or using a water-based lube. Unlocking the secret to making a woman squirt can elevate your lovemaking skills to a whole new level, ensuring a deeply satisfying experience for both partners. To make your girl writhe and squirm with pleasure, put plenty of lubricant on your index finger and slowly insert it two or three inches inside her vagina. Curve your finger upward slightly towards her abdomen and feel for a small, bumpy area that feels like a blackberry. Once you’ve helped your girl address the mental ‘barriers’ that are preventing her from relaxing, getting her horny isn’t complicated.